In this dangerous age of echo chambers where people parrot the beliefs and views of others, John Michael warns against groupthink and how we might have arrived here.
I was figuring out my own way to do math in third grade and I remember feeling excited that I was getting the right answers. The teacher asked me how I was doing it and I do not remember what I said as an answer. “No,” she said, and she made me go back to using those colored bar deals, I think they call them rods.
Children have all sorts of interesting ideas and thoughts, that no one listens to. So, after a while, they just quit thinking for themselves, get deeply depressed, and join the herd. I am prone to people-pleasing anyway, so I learned to give them (and by “them” I mean everybody I met) exactly what they wanted to hear. You listen to the teacher, listen to the inflection in their voice, learn how they think about something, then that is what you give them in the paper. This became so natural to me that I did not even realize that was what I was doing.
I had a couple of pretty good professors in college and I could tell they were frustrated with the modern student. “Yes, but what do you think about the theory?” they would ask. Us students would be like, “We think what you think, duh.”
I started thinking for myself in grad school again. During my first semester at Portland State, I got a C in a class. All my other professors gave me As so I thought she was the problem. I did not know anything about grade inflation back then. But once you hit grad school, you are in a club and, Hey, we are happy to have you in the club so we can indoctrinate our way of thinking into you and into the world. We will give you false grades so you can carry our banner forward.
My grad school training was in social work. I was going to have a word with that professor who gave me a C. But by the time the next semester started, I told her she was right and that I would do better. You have to write some long papers for those fake grades. When I started the semester again, I decided I was going to write what I thought and see how it went. Well, it went just fine grades-wise.
I was on lithium at that time which did not seem to affect my thinking; what it did was mute all the shame, rage, and depression I was packing around to the point that I did not even know it was there. I was also living alone, which gave me plenty of time to think. I was also meditating and doing yoga so my thinking was very clear.
In psychology and social work, you have a lot of very good theories and models of how to go about things, based on what others have thought and what seems to work in the present. Nothing wrong with that. Well, I started speaking up in class about what I thought of things, “I like this and I think this is wrong and you know what about this.”
Professors started getting anxious and upset, other students were giving me dirty looks. There was a tremendous amount of social pressure to be like they were and to think like they thought. I understand the desire to shut your mouth. The need to belong to a trusted group is, I imagine, deeply imprinted in our DNA.
The same thing happens on Facebook and in our lives every day. This is how us liberals, libertarians, conservatives, Catholics, Baptists, Unitarians, hipsters think, Goddamn it. Want in the club? Please regurgitate what we are thinking or find yourself disbanded.
The trouble with that is that ideas that aren’t working or serving anymore get held onto for the sake of group cohesion. So, you end up with a couple of dictators and a ton of people-pleasers in whatever group situation you find yourself in. Nobody’s happy, but, Hey, we are unhappy together, which beats being alone, doesn’t it?
I happen to believe the CIA and some very clever politicians are doing some very dark things to erode the Constitution. They stage events both fake and real to get deeper into our lives. You can’t have private communications, the terrorists will get us again. You can’t have guns, children are being murdered. You can’t have free speech, the Nazis can talk then. You can’t peacefully assemble, because the racists will and besides they turn into riots. If they get everybody to think this way, like they did with 9/11 and terror, well then, we will beg them to limit our rights so we can all be the same.