Science, love it, tends to ruin everything. According to one Dutch study, love at first sight is nothing more than base physical attraction.
Love might be a verb, a doing word, but don’t do it in public, and certainly don’t expect it to happen when you first clap eyes on that person. So, delete that moment where your mind zips to the future, the possibility of kids, of dogs, love handles, and the construction of your own bubble with an exclusive population of two, because science believes it does not exist.
While that may come to pass (hang in there, baby), it seems that love at first sight is as mythical as the unicorn that will accept you for you. The fantastically named psychologist who has probably never ever been in love at once, don’t tell me how I feel, Florian Zsok, believes that what people feel at that first juncture is not love, but filthy, dirty basic primordial lust. You sleazoids.
To arrive at this conclusion, Zsok and his team formed the academic equivalent of stuffing the opposite gender into a sack and hoping they’d mate. Eventually, they collated almost 400 adults, closing in on them with clipboards and asked them but one question: How do you feel about your current partner?
From there, the participants met a series of people just their type and were asked to transport themselves to the land of fancy, imagining that the soulless room they stood in was actually a legitimate speed dating event. From there, they were asked how they felt about this person they barely knew, were they gripped by the possibility of love at first sight?
The data, as it turns out, was not very good at all. Out of the 500 cases, only 49 resulted in feeling the flames of romance at first glance, which, in itself, could be a conflated figure.
The data, as it turns out, was not very good at all. Out of the 500 cases, only 49 resulted in feeling the flames of romance at first glance, which, in itself, could be a conflated figure. Those 49 could have been rather desperate or there to subvert such a problematic and, daresay it, confusing study. Or, it could exist as a legitimate, albeit uncommon phenomenon. Hard to say.
However, there was a common theme. Of the 49 who felt it, they often rated their date as more physically attractive than the others. Which suggests that it’s more a chemical prickling of the area behind the genitals more than anything else. Whether this figures that lust is a more powerful feeling than actual love, the results are inconclusive.
Personally, and this might be a minor point of difference, but I’ve not felt love at first sight, but I knew that someone would matter. And she did. Until the fires overcame us, as we turned to ash, scattered to the wind, never again forming that tower of affection we once were. She was hot, though. So maybe it was just lust.
Man, that’s a downer.