The trend that allows you to destroy a room full of objects in the name of inner peace sounds good, but it’s akin to putting a band-aid on a broken limb.
Imagine the living room of a very old couple who have only recently vacated the premises. Delicate china perched on specially constructed shelves, an old cathode ray television, perhaps even a supremely outdated computer primarily used for playing solitaire or misunderstanding the internet.
Now, if they gave you a sledgehammer and asked you to destroy the room, how happy would you be to act that out? What if we just remove the setup, shall we? This thinly veiled, farce of permission? What would you say if we remove the idea of the encouraging, if somewhat masochistic old people and you just had to pay a couple of hundred to live out this fantasy of destroying things? Would you go the full Durst?
This primal fantasy first took off as a fee-for-service in Russia, one that is now available in the streets of my hometown. It began as a Performance Arts piece that involved people taking to a room full of knick-knacks and outdated electrical equipment. Considering their audience, and his own gnawing hunger, the artist saw an opportunity.
These “Rage Rooms” are advertised as a stress reliever and have become immensely popular. It plays into the idea of violent catharsis; that, by channeling your pent-up rage into a relatively benign but violent act, you purge yourself of the dreaded bile building up in your veins. That’s right, “purge yourself of bile.” I’m using the language of medieval times to really emphasize the relevance of this pseudo-psychological concept.
When you break things in a naughty way (read: sledgehammer), you stimulate adrenaline and a range of neurotransmitters that make you feel excited and, afterwards, if you get away with it, a feeling of tiredness mingles with the release of endorphins in the brain that reduce pain and are attributed to the experience of well-being. This leaves you with a sense of peacefulness, not unlike after hard exercise. A feeling that is easily mistaken as catharsis.
Violent acts may also provide a sense of control over your environment where you otherwise might have very little. This goes to partially explain everything from listless and destructive teenage rebellion to the violent rebellion attributed to a disadvantaged minority group. The sense of power that comes with this violence might be satisfying in a way that would be hard to explain. People with depression and anxiety often describe a complete loss of personal agency, a limited capacity to stop bad things from happening to them. Reducing those feelings through violent acts might not make logical sense, but it makes a hell of a lot of emotional sense.
Violent acts may also provide a sense of control over your environment where you otherwise might have very little.
The common myth that violence can help permanently expel feelings of anger was generated by a misread Aristotle (who was very specific on the observation of types of violent theatre that could be considered constructively cathartic) and a disproven Freud (who described human anger as an inherent drive). This takes us on to modern psychological research, which time again has proven that the indulgence in aggressive tendencies only reinforces the use of this behavior and ensures that it is repeated and even used as a default in order to address the experience of stress. This does not mean that you will start beating down on your manager when he uses “that tone of voice.”
Unfortunately, it does mean that you are more likely to have violent thoughts, and thereby reduce the chances of utilizing realistic options for solving the problems around you. On a side note, feeling homicidal is not very good for you. Aggression leads to the production of similar chemicals in your body as anxiety, and we all know the broad sweeping destructive physical impacts of stress and anxiety.
It is really important to be wary of purely psychological answers to life’s problems. Psychological interventions can be like placing a Band-Aid on a broken limb. It might stop the bleeding but the structure is still broken.
The popularity of destroying rooms full of useless garbage seems far more indicative of a desire to relieve increasing social pressures, or even a reflection of the glorification of violence through popular culture. In a related way, the sudden surge of mindfulness interventions, like adult coloring books and meditation, while incredibly useful delivered in the appropriate context, can serve as a distraction from the root cause of the distress. A psychological intervention will often start with increasing your capacity to engage with and change your environment rather than trying to place the blame on your mental fortitude.
Not everyone has the resources or capacity to change their life and reduce their stress, and as this group grow, instead of smashing small porcelain ducks they might smash the state. If you’re reading this article, however, you probably have far more capacity to smash your preconceptions as to what someone else told you to do with your life.