Psychologists say that phubbing is ruining the real-life bonds of partners and decreasing marital satisfaction.

Have you ever wondered why some relationships are blessed with long life and a few begin faltering even with all the comforts? Is not that cushion of comforts enough to keep the spark alive in the relationship? What is truly lacking sometimes becomes a reason to initiate a breakup. Rarely, does anyone try to get to the root of the problems, but no doubt reasons persist. Then, what’s the trigger that makes couples drift apart?

Is something missing in compatibility that leads to sudden breakups during challenging times? Is in order to keep the relationships in tune some unique characters are required to be possessed? Then, exactly what is needed and what is it that make relationships stronger? In short, what is the secret of satisfying and having sustainable relationships?

Relationship is not a mere word but a reflection of characters, as a whole, by an individual. It stands on strong pillars and is not just rhetoric. Its longevity is construed in trust, emotions, commitment, compassion, sacrifice, and deep feelings for one another. It cannot be easily dodged. But the one thing that really makes any relationship meaningful and guarantees long-lasting happiness in couples is “loyalty.”

Loyalty has a deep sense and is an innate and deeply ingrained quality. Like a cohesive force and strong glue, it binds the faithful partners intact and even nourishes the bond of commitment. It’s like a pledge of allegiance to the other. It’s a sacrifice both the partners do on their part. And it is a key to enjoy long-lasting happiness in couples.

One study says that seventy percent of married Americans cheat at least once during their marriage. Another study says that twenty percent of men cheat in comparison to thirteen percent of women.

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The recent trend is different. The feeling of betrayal by any of the spouses is on the rise and is downright common. Still, there is a question that pops to mind: Why, after years of togetherness and in the absence of compatibility or source of fulfillment, are they now seeking to split? Don’t they ever try to fix the conflicts? Who is to be blamed for such a sudden change? Is social media one of the causes?

Almost inseparable. Yes, digital platforms and social media are an integral part of human life and are ruling the society. Everything of one’s choice is just a click away. Not only that, even searching a girlfriend is no longer a tough task. The internet is a sea of opportunities and the next option one click away. No doubt, this has opened a new door for loyalty-breach seekers and has come as a boon to them.

Research says that the more you use social media, the more likely you feel depression or anxiety.

Obsessed about loyalty breach by either of the spouses is believed to be the root cause of break-ups and divorces. Smart gadgets help by rekindling the feelings of lost friendships and love. Though it seems very simple, it is not as easy as we think, it takes time to reignite the flames of togetherness between partners, like what they experienced early on. That requires continuous efforts through open conversations, messaging, or chatting to bridge the gap. In making relationships now, no other option is better than smart gadgets.

Spouses during conversations do not listen to each other and remain hooked to their phones or smart gadgets, known as “phubbing,” leading to dissatisfaction and emptiness, which in turn causes a major rift in relationships.

Spouses during conversations do not listen to each other and remain hooked to their phones or smart gadgets, known as “phubbing,” leading to dissatisfaction and emptiness, which in turn causes a major rift in relationships.

Smart gadgets aren’t the only reason for a loyalty breach, other factors are responsible too, but these devices are an easy and safe way to reach many people virtually at the same minute and can be addicting and a distraction.

Don’t misunderstand that loyalty breach occurs only in troubled relationships. It happens in happy families also. The relationship experts say that sharing personal information, addiction to drugs, alcohol, financial cheating are also a few reasons that lead to shaky relationships.

Loyalty fills up the differences and rifts that occur between spouses and balances the relationship during good and bad times. In long-term relationships, loyalty helps the other feel more safe and secure. The fact is, smart gadgets aren’t the only thing to blame because loyalty building in relationships is the outcome of continual support, forgiveness, open communication, and giving priority to relationships.

Minna Antrim wrote, “Love often wears a mask in order to test loyalty.”